30 Day Genderqueer Challenge Day 8

11 Mar

What have you done or plan to do to socially transition? Pronouns, name, coming out, etc.

My pronouns and name haven’t change much as I’ve not ‘come out’ per se but rather informed those close and important to me what I prefer.

I prefer gender neutral pronouns although I don’t mind female pronouns if it is from someone who’s asked what I prefer – I just want people to ask me rather than assume. I don’t like male pronouns, I think that has more to do with where I am at and not feeling trans enough to be called ‘he’ or ‘Mr’.  Another genderqueer explained their need to retain their female pronoun so they would’t disappear within the trans* spectrum and not loose who they are when presenting as quite masculine.

My preferred name at the moment is my nickname. I did go through alternatives, thinking of changing my name entirely and/or using my middle name which is somewhat gender neutral – but in the end I didn’t feel right changing it.

I’ve not ‘come out’ as such but I’ve told a few people here and there, mostly within my social circle, and work is still a tricky place where people ‘she’ me all the time and refer to me as ‘her’ or a ‘lady’, which makes me shudder. I don’t know how to come out as genderqueer. I feel it is much easier to understand someone who transitions from one gender to the other but it is much harder for someone who looks the same but wants to be called by a different name, pronoun and start using the male toilets. Just to note I use the accessible toilets and when needed the female toilets. I would like to educate more friends and workmates about genderqueer as I am quite happy running a workshop for complete strangers and ‘outing’ myself as genderqueer!

Adapted from the 30 day Trans challenge and the 30 day [GSM] challenge

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