Your first queer crush or relationship?
I cannot remember exactly who my first queer crush was, but the following names come to mind:
– a queer person I met online who I later met and now know personally
– Hilary Swank in “Boys Don’t Cry”
– Veronica who used to catch the school bus with me in Rome ( I have no idea if she was queer but it was her androgynous look that I liked)
As for my first queer relationship, that would have been someone who I met online through a website called Mogenic. It was a brief relationship, solely due to my own stupidity, but it was one that taught me a lot about myself and who I wanted to be.
My first queer crush was probably on a few drag kings that would perform at the Star Hotel on Hoddle Street on Friday nights back in the day. In those days there were many drag kings that would then become men and genderqueers, making me wonder if it was a crush or a secret knowledge that I wanted to be like them in some way.
My first queer relationship was a three-month interstate long-distance liaison with someone I met online. Even though I still felt I had one foot in being a lesbian, I was very sure that my other foot was stepping into being more queer and exploring what it meant to be genderqueer (even though I didn’t realise it at the time). As I look back at that time I felt this relationship allowed me to explore my gender, sexuality and feel safe enough to explore beyond vanilla sex as well.